Previously I mentioned that I was so scared of having a child because there’s a huge chance that I would be passing on whatever genetic flaw I have or I am carrying to them. Not only that, my child would be suffering whatever I passed on and also who knows what the child’s father will pass on the genetic flaws from him that I might not be aware of. Then there is the fact that one of you is unaware that you have it or you are a carrier so the chances of your child getting those bad genes are even higher.
I was thinking a lot of crazy things because uncertainty will really make you go mad. In every situation, we eliminate things that would make us at peace so we can move forward. But what if eliminating things that would make your mind at peace with moving forward so you will now have a concrete plan of action with the future partner you’ll be seeing is not pleasing to God’s eyes?
Logically, there’s a way to make your mind at peace. If you already decided that you will not bear any child, then tubal ligation is the way. At probably around 10,000 pesos for the procedure, you can get your tubes tied and you don’t need to worry about bearing a child anymore. 10,000 pesos is kind of nothing compared to what you are going to endure with your kid. Electing this procedure means you already know how things will go. You can say you can’t get pregnant anymore because you got your tubes tied and if you met a man who also has the same interest of not having children, that means you don’t need to worry about making love anytime you want, because you won’t get pregnant anyway.
If you want to have children, but you also want a higher chance to have healthy babies, then In-Vitro Fertilization (IVF) is the way. Well the problem here is while it increases the chance of a healthy baby, it’s kind of expensive and you are uncertain IF you will end up having a healthy baby… then they said killing embryos is a sin… so…
So you see, if you are a practicing Christian and you were taught that doing these procedures are tantamount to killing or disrupting the process of creating a human being in a natural way, you will be like so how do I get through this mess?
Then for some reason I’ve been drawn to the Story of St. Therese of Lisieux. All I knew before was she was an inspirational child who became a nun at an early age. Then when I read her story, I was amazed that her parents didn’t even plan on building a family. Prior to her parents getting married, Louis Martin, St. Therese’s dad wanted to become a priest, but he was not too well versed in Latin. Then Azélie-Marie Guérin wanted to be a nun, but she was refused because she was sickly. For some reason, fate brought them together and they got married. Just as you thought they immediately wanted to bear children, they both agreed to enter a Josephite Marriage where both of you will be celibate forever despite being married. If not for their confessor prohibiting them from doing so, there will probably be no St. Therese of Lisieux, who has inspired millions and probably billions of people whether alive or dead of the things she did.
Maybe what I’m trying to say is if it was indeed God’s plan for you or me to have a child, whether they are societal healthy or not, he wouldn’t leave you without any decent options right? After all people kept on saying God will not give you a challenge or struggle that he was sure you cannot face right?
Who knows, maybe if it’s in God’s will for you or me to have a child, they will be doing wonders to other people for the years or decades to come.
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